Conflict is a natural part of being in relationships and communities. We use a consensus-building model of dialogue by noticing our reactions and feelings, using mindfulness to have awareness of our sensations, and nonviolent communication tools to engage in beneficial conversation towards healing, restoration, and reconciliation.
Checking in with our own sensations and identifying what may best serve is usually the initial step.
"No Fault Zone"
Based on mindful awareness of our bodies, once we have moved into calm awareness, conversations can be held using NVC tools of OFNR (observations, feelings, needs and requests).
It may be helpful to work through some steps identified in the "No Fault Zone" book to alleviate and look into intense emotions.
Emotions to Solutions
Continuing to use various sources available, a member may find one set of suggestions preferable to another. Multiple tools and venues are available to support the difficult work of cultivating kind relationships in the community.
Awarenes & Action Map
A more detailed structure that can support member's emotional processing is based on a hybrid model from various sources in the Social Emotional Learning realm and personal learning by HGEC Founder.
Conflicts are either identified by simply being present to the exchanges during the day or folks identify suggestions, compliments or concerns by dropping notes in a box.
The members prefer to have concerns between specific individuals be discussed in private with a facilitator. And a general (nonspecific) disclosure of challenges be shared at the closing circle, so the community has awareness of such matters.